I get the inspiration for my blogs from the strangest places sometimes. This one came from a text conversation that I had with a good friend. But it got me to thinking….and well, you know the rest.
My friend thinks he may be close to losing his job. Is he low man on the seniority totem-pole? No. He’s been there for way over 20-something years. And he is the only one that does his job. Is it for breaking some rule? No. He’s always been a good and loyal employee. Well, what could it be you might ask. He told me that honestly, he doesn’t feel as dedicated to the job anymore. And he’s probably worried that it’s beginning to show. I could certainly relate to that. And it got me thinking about how this kind of thing happens.
Having never spent much time at a job; except for my twelve years in the Air Force, and even that had a break in the middle, the longest I’ve ever worked at a job was when I was the Office Manager at a small real estate office in Cincinnati. And even that was only for six and a half years. I can’t imagine what it would be like to work somewhere for 20 years.
Most of my life has been moving from one job to the next. Usually, it had to do with the fact that I was mainly interested in seeing that whichever husband I was with got to “be all he wanted to be”. And this always ended up being at the expense of my own career advancement opportunities. I don’t say that wanting pity from you. It was the choice that I made at the time that I felt was the right one. Do I regret that choice, that I made over and over again in my life? Hell yeah. Some of them. Because here I sit at 55 years old, with no savings, not many fabulous earthly possessions, and getting ready to start school for a new vocation. When what I should really be doing is: getting ready to wind down from some wonderful career that I was wildly successful at, with a couple of homes and a large retirement fund, just ready for me to tap into and enjoy these so-called “golden years”.
So, in my case, I would have to say, “that’s my story, and I’m stickin to it”. Mainly because it’s true. So yes, I’ve had a lot of different joys in my life. And 99% of them had to do with dealing with the public. And trust me, THAT can be a real joy-killer, to say the least. Other reasons that I left jobs include, but are not limited to: shitty bosses, lousy pay, crappy hours, or too many crappy hours for too little pay working for shitty bosses. In other words….any combination of any of the above. Oh, and no benefits. Unless you consider working long, crappy hours for a shitty boss and lousy pay a benefit.
I also have a tendency to get bored easily too. Once I’ve learned a job, mastered it, and become the best at it – I lose a bit of interest in it. I suspect that this is the case with my friend, and why he doesn’t feel the dedication he once did. This is a guy who likes variety in his life. He has a few interests that I am sure keeps him motivated to do and see more. And at one time, I’m sure his job was one of those things. But lets face it. After 20 plus years of doing the same thing, for the same people it must get boring. Probably two of the only reasons that he’s been there THIS long, is because they paid him really well for what he does. And it’s one of the main employers in his little town. And he’s one of the bosses. So this makes him a pretty big fish in a small pond. I’m sure that appeals to his ego. It would mine. I definitely can see the attraction. But what now? He hasn’t asked for, nor have I given him any advice on what he should do. It’s not my place to. BUT I am positive, that you my loyal readers, want to know what I would do right? No? Well, too bad, cause here it comes anyway.
The way I see it, he can retire. I am sure he’s probably saved enough or invested enough to do that. But I don’t think he would want to do that for a couple of reasons. He’s still pretty young (relatively speaking). Much too young for Social Security-type retirement. And he would still be in the same small town. Only now he wouldn’t be that “big fish” anymore. I am quite sure that over the years he has been approached by many people in search of a job. And he was probably able to help a lot of them out. He’s been one of the most “eligible” bachelors in his town for a long time. He would still be that, but any good-diggers out there would have to try to get at his retirement. And the interests that he has: traveling, Harleys and horses? They all take lots of money. So, unless he has a HUGE nest egg, he’s going to want to keep working. I don’t know if there are any competition companies that he could apply to. If so, I am sure a head hunter could find him something, but he might have to consider moving. I don’t think he wants to do that either.
So what’s left? Only thing I can think of is probably one of the hardest things to do. He would need to fall back in love with his job. A job is no different from any other kind of relationship. You have to “spice it up” to keep it interesting. And like I have said before, this man loves variety in his life. So I am pretty sure he has probably tried just about everything he could think of in the 20 plus years to keep his job interesting.
I wish him a lot of luck in whatever he chooses to do. I personally think it would be great if he retired. HERE in Florida. He could live cheap, indulge his hobbies and see ME ! He could watch me go to school to learn a new career. And then, cheer me on as I probably end up working for a shitty boss, pulling long hours for crappy pay ! But one benefit would be getting to see him !